advice. tidbits. encouragement. guidance. words of wisdom.
on my 41st birthday.
- eat a good breakfast.
- eat a good lunch.
- eat a good dinner.
- eat cookies and ice cream.
- don’t deprive yourself of anything.
life is too short. i never want to get to the end of my life and know there was a cookie in front of me left uneaten. for years, i struggled with weight issues. i joined weight watchers at 21 and was a solid life time member for over 12 years. i ate every non-fat, zero sugar, chemically shit stormed item i could find to keep my points at a bare minimum. to this day, i swear that is why i had an impossible time getting pregnant. when i got married, i didn’t even eat my own wedding cake because it was too many points. looking back at that, i find that completely insane. life is about balance. and loving YOU for you. go eat a cookie.
i’ve stated this before. i think moving is so important. lift weights. adopt a fitness routine. i’ve never felt stronger in my life. strong is the new skinny.
- drink apple cider vinegar.
this is another routine i’ve adopted. every morning i mix 1 tbsp apple cider vinegar and water. i’ve learned to add BAI also. i typically take an 80z mason jar, add 1 Tbsp of ACV, fill it halfway with BAI (the pomegranate is my favorite) and the fill the other half with water. it neutralizes the flavor. tastes just like as sweet tart. another variation is topping it off with some La Croix.
- drink collagen peptides.
here’s the one i use.
- drink probiotics.
this is one of my favorites. the lemon cayenne one is the best.
- drink wine.
believe it or not, i love this wine.
- drink beer.
i can’t choose a favorite.
- drink spirits
health wise, i try to limit my alcohol content. plus i’m a terrible lightweight. 2 drinks is my maximum or else i’m fighting a headache and exhaustion the next day. after a golf game, i love a cold beer. in the winter, wine completes my evening meal. and for every thing in between, i love a martini or a strong bourbon.
- join the no drama club.
walk away from that crap. actually run as fast as you can. i’m too old for that shit.
i need this badge.
- take stock of who is in your life.
- you don’t have to like everyone and everyone doesn’t have to like you.
i’ve softened with age. i used to be quite a hothead when i was younger. i would jump head first into an argument, guns blazing. my tongue is sharp. i sometimes lack tact (or so my mother always says) and i’ve been known to argue until my last breath. i really don’t feel the need to do so anymore. silence is golden. plus arguing takes so much energy. i find myself withdrawing from people that suck my energy. i’ll be cordial, but i refuse to be involved. when i love my people, i love them ferociously. i want to spend as much time with them as possible. i am fiercely loyal. in the same breath, it is also very easy to shut people out. i have met some people who have a strange way of showing love. those aren’t my people. and that’s okay. i don’t wish anything but happiness for them. you do you. i’ll do me. and when our paths cross, it’s all good. just be kind. always.
- i have also learned that people deserve second chances. we all make mistakes. we all deserve forgiveness (including myself). sorry is a powerful word.
- love every inch of YOU.
i gained 60 pounds with pregnancy. actually more than that because when i topped 60, i quit looking. my tummy is riddled with stretch marks. i used to hate my stomach. but it maps one of the most beautiful moments in my life. i’m learning to embrace it. when i see my self in pictures, it’s very easy to see all of my wrinkles. i notice the laugh lines around my eyes are way more predominant when i smile big. my husband gave me most of those. almost every single one of them. each one was hilariously earned.
- embrace technology. i love technology. my husband will come home after work and tell me about the latest and greatest. “i’ll take it!” i always say. last month when we went south carolina and florida, i can’t tell you how many times we used our smart phones. we would drive through cities and wonder how big they were, what they are known for, what was it’s history. we all would take turns on our phones googling it. we learned so many great things. things we would never have learned without technology. knowledge is power.
- i totally believe in synchronicity and destiny. learning to be patient. believing in perfect timing. knowing there are no mistakes. no failures.
- don’t worry about the little things.
don’t stress. everything always falls into place. if it doesn’t involve a death, an illness or a serious injury, it’s small stuff. let that shit go.
- gratitude is my key to happiness.
honestly, there isn’t a day that goes by that i don’t thank God for my life. even when things aren’t how i pictured them to be, i have to always know, there is someone with far less than what i have who is making it work. your attitude in life, during good and hard times, is a choice. be gracious.
- vacations fill my soul.
i have sheer and utter wanderlust. i could live out of a suitcase my whole life. there isn’t much in life that excites me more than a getaway. big or small. just give me a weekend away and i’m as happy as a clam. some of my absolute best memories have been on vacation.
- get busy living.
i read a saying the other day that will live with me forever. “everyone dies. but not everyone lives.” in my line of work, i come across quotes and sayings a bazillion times a day. i don’t think a quote has had such an immediate impact on me as this one did. most people don’t know this about me, but i am a very very fearful person. i would say from about the age of 35-39 were my worst. i was afraid of so many things. little things. silly things. big things. it was so debilitating. i am learning to have faith. that’s a big one for me. to have faith that the universe will catch me. that my angels will surround me. slowly but surely, i’m challenging my fears. in the past couple of years i’ve rode in an airplane, zip-lined, ridden a rollercoaster, gone in the ocean, worn a bikini, white water rafted, golfed on a course with snakes, enrolled in school to grow my business, got back into blogging and started building a reputable Art Moms and Friends Holiday Pop Up Shop and more. all of these things terrify me. whether it be fear of death, fear of loss, fear of failure, bottom line, there was a fear. i’m trying to beat those fears and it’s kind of exhilarating.
- spend money.
treat yourself. you can’t take it with you when you die.
- give money.
lots of it. treat others. you can’t take it with you when you die.
- learn from the youth.
they are amazing. the future is in their hands. give them the ability, the respect and the trust to change the world. lord knows we need some help.
- when i say words like “per ush and totes” …i probably don’t sound as cool as my 13 year old. i’m also too old for snapchat and too young for life alert.
- quit saying you are old.
i just witnessed my 73 year old dad spend two weeks on vacation with us in Myrtle Beach and Florida. he was always one of the first ones up, drove hours in the car, walked miles on the golf course, the beach and Universal Studios, played cards every night before bed and never once complained. that right there is total inspiration. i want to be like him when i grow up.
- learn from the elderly.
they come from tough stock. you talk about a strong generation with amazing work ethics and family values.
- never stop learning.
change happens. deal with it. grow with it. embrace it. you can do anything.
- empower women.
build each other up. stop tearing each other down.
- empower men.
they need love and support also.
- support local and small.
the only way anyone small and local will make it, is with your support. buy as much as you can locally.
- find a mantra.
rise. this has been my word for the year. for months, i would hear it and see it everywhere. one day, during yoga, i was searching for my “intention” and RISE popped into my head. since then, it’s been my mantra. RISE. rise above negativity, rise above drama. rise above doubt. rise above fear. rise above anything that doesn’t serve you.
- mornings are magical.
i love my mornings. i get most of my work done before the sun comes up. just a few days ago, i was on my way to lunch with grace. it was 11:30 a.m. and i realized i had already put in a 7 hour day. talk about mad accomplishment skills. on the flip side, i have a hard time staying awake sometimes past 8:30pm . barely ever do i see past 10pm. i am completely and unapologetically earning my granny status.
- sometimes i also eat dinner before 5 pm. granny status confirmed.
- keep recording your life.
i get made fun of a lot for always taking pictures. i love capturing moments. that’s part of the reason i started this blog. i wanted to capture my life and all of it’s little moments.
- be confident but stay humble.
i always want to remember the fact that my customer base is and has always been the most supportive and positive people i could ever ask for. i can count on one hand how many times we’ve had negative criticism or a problem because of an unsatisfied customer. i try hard to know them by name. to care about them and to interact with them in real life and on social media. Art Moms is where it’s at today because of unending love and support from our customers. thank you. you allow me to do what i do every. single. day.
- i am so grateful to love what i do.
there is a fire and passion in me for Art Moms. most days i cannot wait to wake up in the morning and start working. i believe in what i do so much and i love sharing my gift with the world. i am so lucky.
- i still love old fashioned pen and paper notes. i like to pen in my dates and appointments on a calendar. i like taking notes and leaving them on paper scraps. i love writing a grocery list on a tablet. you know what’s also making a comeback? greeting cards. bless those lovely millennia’s. you can find some pretty awesome greeting cards here.
- that sometimes, the advice i give to my daughter, is the same advice i should be following. read one of my favorite blog posts here.
*just a little head’s up. i had planned on doing a week full of giveaways starting tomorrow. every day this week was spent helping mom and dad move so things are a bit delayed. no worries though, i plan on spending all day tomorrow gathering lots of fun goodies for you all to win. my main focus was mom and dad because that’s what family does and family will always be my main focus. always.